Swinger Confession of a Christian Swinger

https://christianswinger.blogspot.com/2015/02/intro.html?showComment=1517969383876#c6719830739030483353

(If you want to see the print clearer you can try highlighting it.)

I'm sure my blog title is an interesting one. A "christian swinger"?! Is that really possible??? That's what I've been asking myself a lot lately...

While my parents weren't "Bible thumpers", they ran a tight ship (at least with me). I feel I turned into a well-rounded, good-head-on-my-shoulders, woman of God on my own with no guidance from family. I have accepted Jesus into my heart, and He is my Lord and Savior. I truly believe in the power of prayer, and my Faith means everything to me. I am involved in my Church, and try to attend as frequently as possible (which hasn't been nearly as much as I would like here lately between the bad weather and my kids being sick all the time).

I met my husband nearly 12 years ago. He was my first boyfriend. He was my first kiss. He was my first everything. He considers himself a Christian as he believes in God, but that's about where that ends for his Faith. He was a very sexual person, very aware of his sexuality and desires. I, on the other hand, was the exact opposite. Very naive. Knew nothing about my body or my sexuality. We had originally talked about waiting until marriage for sex, but ended up caving nearly 2 years into our relationship (we got married after being together for 3 years). We decided no one was going to pat us on the back on our wedding day for having waited. That it truly just didn't matter to us because we loved each other deeply.

During the first 10 years of our relationship, I wasn't exactly a lovable person. Sex was a chore to me 99% of the time. We'd go stretches of 2-3 weeks at a time of not being intimate. I'd much rather curl up with my laptop on the other end of the couch than to even think about cuddling with him. Love, hugs, and any type of intimacy was not ever witnessed in my home as a kid. My parents were more like roommates than friends and lovers. So, that's all I knew.

It was June 2013, and we felt like we were at rock bottom. Both miserable. We talked, the word "separation" making its way into the conversation a few times. It really made me open my eyes. To look at the bigger picture. I loved him dearly and wanted to save my marriage. So, what was the problem?

It's hard to explain really what the exact problem was, or how it really came to have changed me so much. I decided to start trusting him 110%, letting go of all jealousies of everything. Knowing that regardless, I'm his whole world and he'll always come home to me every night.

It was more complex than that, but it's hard to put into words. All I can say is that it has changed everything about our marriage. I started opening up more, letting myself go, ignoring my low self-esteem, and working on my marriage. It was almost as if I had a "sexual awakening" and found myself enjoying the intimacy and act of sex. Connecting with my husband and giving myself to him.

Shortly after that, I got pregnant with our second child. My hormones were CRAZY and I was wanting sex all the time! During one particular love-making session, we were divulging our deep, dark fantasies. I confessed I'd love to see him with another woman. He was shocked and turned on all at the same time.

This eventually led to serious conversations about swinging. I started off being very skeptical, always thinking about the taboo side of it. How it would affect my morals and values. Would it cause me to go to Hell? But, I was also intrigued. The idea of going through with swinging was thrilling and interesting. It would certainly spice up our sex life! But I was so torn. What should I do?

This past summer, we got a date night and made a little trip a few hours away from home. We checked out a strip club (my first time at one ever). The strippers were very hands-on, and were giving us plenty of attention (we were the only customers there until we were almost ready to leave). We paid for a couples lap dance, and I surprised myself with how exciting it was watching the naked stripper all over my husband right next to me. It pretty much confirmed that I wanted to take the next step in pursuing the Lifestyle.

A few months later, we made our first visit to a swingers club. The whole night was SO much fun. It was a totally laid back atmosphere. We could be ourselves and not worry about offending anyone. No topic was off limits. We drank, danced, and laughed. We experienced quite a few things that night except for a full swap. But everything else was fun enough and again confirmed this is what we wanted to do.

But, again, there was the little nagging thought in the back of my mind: what does this do to my Christianity? Can I still be a Christian? I shouldn't have to choose one or the other, right? Never a clear-cut answer in this situation. Or maybe there is, and I'm in denial. I just don't know.

In the meantime, we met another couple through a swingers website we're members of. The couple reached out to us first, and we swapped phone numbers almost right away. They are local, live only 2-3 miles away from us. We were texting and set up a date to hang out within the first few days of chatting.

We went to the couples place on a weekend night. We drank some wine and played a card game. After we got comfortable with one another, and having a great time, the other wife asked if we were interested in going through with a full swap. We all agreed, so the card game turned into a strip card game. In no time at all, we were all naked. Then the card game turned into sexual favors. A short time later, we were having a full swap in their bed.

I had always given thought to if/when we would experience a full swap. Would I feel "dirty", like a slut or something? Would I feel guilty, having done something with another man that I've only ever done with my husband?

But, much to my surprise, I left there feeling happy. Like, it was no big deal that hanging out with wine and a card game led to me having sex with another man, and my husband had sex with another woman. Even since then (which was less than 2 weeks ago), I still feel the same. It wasn't a big deal. Just a great time. With the added benefit of that it also made me feel so insanely close to my husband. I didn't think I could feel closer to him, but it did. And I can't even explain why or how it made me feel like that.

Our communication has improved ten-fold ever since our chat in June 2013, but especially since we decided to enter the Lifestyle. There are absolutely no secrets between us. We hold nothing back from one another. And we're genuinely happy.

I'm so incredibly content with where I'm at in life. I love the idea of the Lifestyle, the new friends that we're going to meet along the way. The trust and love I have for my husband is something I can't even put into words.

We have agreed that we don't want to have sex with 50 other people. We want to keep it at a minimum as far as that goes.

All the while, I hold onto my Faith. It's my anchor. I make it a point to pray every morning as I'm leaving the house, and every night while I'm in the shower. Depending on what's going on during the day, I might whisper a prayer as I feel the need to. I'm proud to be a Christian, and try to live as a woman of God.

Obviously being in the Lifestyle, being "sexually impure", isn't the Christian way. But, I love God and I enjoy the Lifestyle.

I plan on using this blog to express my thoughts and feelings along the way, as we plan on seeking out more experiences and make new friends in the Lifestyle. As I try to juggle all of that with work, my family, and my religion.

19 comments:

  1. Curious how this is going with you

    Reply
  2. My husband and have a similar story to you but haven't done anything yet. Will you be updating anymore? I'm curious what to expect if we go through with it.

    Reply
    Replies
    1. Hello! I'm interested in speaking with other Christians who have this desire. Please email me at. Lyfebox8@gmail.com

    2. My wife and I are Christians as well with liberal ideas about sexuality. We would love to speak with either of you. numnumhippiecouple@yahoo.com

    3. *** inkaboutit4u.com reply ****************************


      Many Churches have totally wrong teaching on Bible sexuality. God clearly is very pro-nudity and pro-sexual enjoyment. He created sexual pleasure and said Sex and nudity was/is very good, or excellence. God designed for us all to enjoy. Christian swingers is one of the best way to love others fully the way God wanted us to love others.

      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=How_Sex_Was_Made_A_Sin
      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=Expose_Wrong_Sex_Teaching_With_URLs
      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=Web_Pages_List

      Delete
  3. This comment has been removed by the author.

    Reply
  4. You're not a real Christian if you live the lifestyle. It's n abomination to God and His word. You need to examine your life and get right with Him before it's too late

    Reply
    Replies
    1. TheWay77, you need to reexamine the Scriptures and repent of your legalism.

    2. *** inkaboutit4u.com reply ****************************

      The Way77 you are totally wrong. You are not a real Christian because you made that statement, because you create the wrong plan of Salvation. You say to be a Christian you have to accept Jesus and be anti-swinger. You are a cultist with the wrong plan of Salvation.

      Many Churches have totally wrong teaching on Bible sexuality. God clearly is very pro-nudity and pro-sexual enjoyment. He created sexual pleasure and said Sex and nudity was/is very good, or excellence. God designed for us all to enjoy. Christian swingers is one of the best way to love others fully the way God wanted us to love others.

      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=How_Sex_Was_Made_A_Sin
      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=Expose_Wrong_Sex_Teaching_With_URLs
      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=Web_Pages_List

      Delete
  5. There is nothing wrong with Christians swinging as long as you do it responsibly. All of the law of God goes back to love your neighbor as yourself. Check out books by Tom Gruber, Bromleigh McClenenghan, and Philo Thelos.

    Reply
    Replies
    1. *** inkaboutit4u.com reply ****************************
      On my web page you down and number of free ebooks about Sex in the Bible.

      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=Book_Divine_Sex_FREE_Online_Part_1_of_4

      Many Churches have totally wrong teaching on Bible sexuality. God clearly is very pro-nudity and pro-sexual enjoyment. He created sexual pleasure and said Sex and nudity was/is very good, or excellence. God designed for us all to enjoy. Christian swingers is one of the best way to love others fully the way God wanted us to love others.

      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=How_Sex_Was_Made_A_Sin
      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=Expose_Wrong_Sex_Teaching_With_URLs
      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=Web_Pages_List

      Delete
  6. After studying the Bible for over 30 years and researching "the whole of the subject" on this very subject, that is, Biblical Sexology for 15 of those years, there exists a private few of us networked Christian Swingers. We are unique, and of course, non-politically correct and have the FULL understanding on what the Bible really teaches regarding having secondary lovers (2nd Wives, Concubines, sugar-daddy debt slaves and Eunuchs). The bible does forbids secondary lovers to those that are ELDERS of the Church, but for the rest of us Christian Lifestylers, most poor wisdom concerns BDSM and/or Homosexuality.

    A popular Christian Sexuality Yahoo groups to consider joining is ChristProErotic, and if you reside around Western NC, there is MonkeyCouples also on YahooGroups.com

    Reply
  7. i feel for you, those who walk on the edge can't help but do so and are troubled by what they find and doubt. you're not outside if you feel you are on the inside. sometimes God makes special creatures that can't rest. i can help a little if you message me johnmaryuk777@gmail.com

    Reply
  8. I guarantee that either her marriage is over or her faith is over.

    Reply
    Replies
    1. *** inkaboutit4u.com reply ****************************

      I would disagree. One research of Swingers showed only 5% Swinger get divorced or 5% leave swinger because they get divorced. Church have a 35% divorce rate. Atheist have 27% divorce rate.

      She clearly point out that their marriage greatly improved because of swinging.

      She should not lose faith in God because God is very pro-swinging. The Church has the wrong sexual teaching. The Christian Church should be encouraging Swingers.
      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=God_Gave_Sexual_Freedom_to_All_Creation
      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=Swingers_Christians_Swingers
      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=Swingers_in_the_Bible_Swinging_NOT_a_Sin

      Many Churches have totally wrong teaching on Bible sexuality. God clearly is very pro-nudity and pro-sexual enjoyment. He created sexual pleasure and said Sex and nudity was/is very good, or excellence. God designed for us all to enjoy. Christian swingers is one of the best way to love others fully the way God wanted us to love others.

      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=How_Sex_Was_Made_A_Sin
      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=Expose_Wrong_Sex_Teaching_With_URLs
      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=Web_Pages_List


      http://inkaboutit4u.com/?p=Book_Divine_Sex_FREE_Online_Part_1_of_4

© 2018 • Powered by BasicPages