Affairs Good or Bad

 

What is and is not Adultery in the Bible? What is the differences between "swinging" and adultery?

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Sexual  Affairs  

Good love affairs Vs Bad love affairs.

Love affair between people are personal love relation between lovers. This can be between men and women, or between 2 women (wives) lovers or 2 men (husbands) lovers or a foursome or more.

The Bible talks about when 2 flesh becomes 1 flesh. A oneness.

Good love affair:

Bad love Affair:

Bring people together in love

Only 2 people excluding spouses

Increases love

Jealousy from spouse because they are left out of love triangle and not part of it.

Increases harmony

Jealousy causes conflict at some point

Increases fruits of the spirit

Increase fruits of the "sin principal"

Include your spouse into the love affair not separation (spouse is one flesh lover needs to be include and part of it)

Excludes spouse, only one spouse benefits in love affair, where is the benefit to the other spouse? May cause division or breakup of "one flesh" relationship.

Is open and honest

Maybe hidden or secret , Excludes spouse

All 4 involved benefit

Only 2 people involve benefit, other spouses lose out, gets no benefit to the other spouse.

Love affair where only two people benefit, causes: strive, jealousy, envy and separation. Only they benefit leaving the other spouse in a void, then it causes division, conflicts, jealousies, strive. One spouse is on "cloud nine" and happy their needs are being fulfilled and the other spouse is fear of lost, being excluded and getting little or no benefit or even getting needs not meet that was meet before. This is more like betrayal adultery.

When 2 married couples are involve a foursome love affair that works out very good and causes much love and harmony and happiness to all four. This creates a oneness, a strong bond, and a strong fellowship for all 4 people. Team work and cooperation. All 4 people needs get fulfilled and every one greatly benefits. This is not betrayal adultery either, but serving each other in love.

The Bible tells us when a person divorces a wife and marries another, that is adultery. This is betraying one wife, turning your back on one wife and marrying another women. This was because of the hardness of the heart, lack of love. Instead the man should marry the other women and not divorce the other wife. Its ok to add wives but not "take away permanently". Also, it was ok to "loan" your wife or wives to another man for a period of time. Ex. 21:4.

Polygamy was ok, according to the Bible. Second, Third, forth, etc lovers became part of the family and helped with housework, helped take care of the children, animals, and do other work around the house. Other wives benefit because of "sisters" type relationship. Wives helped one another as a team.

2 Sam 12:8 God said that he gave king David all his many wives and that if he wanted more wives or sexual lover concubines, all David had to do was to pray for more and God, himself, would have given him as many wives as he wanted. Unlimited amount of women. Much, much more. Solomon understood this and had over 300 (or 700) wives and 700 (or 300) sexual lover concubines. His only problem was that some of the women worshiped other deities gods. This polygamy of wives or having sexual lover concubines was not betrayal adultery.

The Bible tells us when a person divorces a wife and marries another, that is adultery. This is betraying one wife, turning your back on one wife and marrying another women. This was because of the hardness of the heart, the lack of love. Instead the man should take the other women as a wife or a concubine and not divorce the other wife. Its ok to add wives, but not "take away wives permanently". But it was ok to "loan" your wife or wives to another man for a period of time. Ex. 21:4.

Ex. 21:4 is about a man "loaning" another man one of his wives to use sexually and as "his wife" and when he leaves, then he is to return the "loaner" wife and return the children that they produced with the "loaner" wife. This is not betrayal adultery, but love in action.

Wives were very expensive and not all men could afford to buy or rent a women or a wife so it was a very loving act to "loan" a man one of your wives for a period of time.

Male Swingers of today "loan" their wife to others and let each other, by mutually agreement, enjoy other people in loving sexual fulfillment and have more of their sexual and love needs meet and feel more love and higher self-esteem. To feel more freedom to receive love as well as sexual love from others and do more loving to others. It is open and honest and includes both spouses and all benefit in the process, important needs are being meets. This is good and loving and not betrayal adultery.

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